tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post5264888123482992564..comments2023-05-16T02:54:58.920-07:00Comments on Losing That Which I Cannot Keep: Boaz and RuthErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02785435035760924844noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-59154244325134330232010-02-24T23:51:58.809-08:002010-02-24T23:51:58.809-08:00Once again, I've got a comment for you that I ...Once again, I've got a comment for you that I will have to e-mail you because it's way too long to post!! I am hoping it comes through this time!The Balcom Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13344256291271215758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-37410548456811944392010-02-22T11:33:42.493-08:002010-02-22T11:33:42.493-08:00Tiff, such good point. I think I probably tend to...Tiff, such good point. I think I probably tend to fall into the fear of losing the competition/fear of not being interesting enough side of the spectrum and pretend like it's based on good things. Even knowing this, it's just so hard to know when it's time to act and when it's time to wait. I'm so fearful of rejection, that I probably tend towards the not acting side too much. Sigh. I think it's gonna take a minor miracle for me to ever get married at this point.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02785435035760924844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-89311581348766378132010-02-22T11:24:29.025-08:002010-02-22T11:24:29.025-08:00For my part, I don't think you need to be the ...For my part, I don't think you need to be the seventh. Unless the Lord says "Get over there, sister!" I think that this man would instead see you as different by not going over there.<br /><br />For me, the problem is the "why" - why am I not going over there? Is it because I don't want to "compete" or is it because I fear that if it is a competition I will lose? Is it because I don't want to be "one of those kinds of women" who throws themselves at the new guy? Or is it because I am afraid that I am not interesting enough to earn a conversation?<br /><br />I have been reading a book called "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" by Dr. Henry Cloud (boundaries series) and through it the Lord is really showing my some of my thought and behavior patterns. <br /><br />Your note makes me think of the Bachelor (which I had never really watched until this year and then have only watched, cringingly, a couple episodes). 10 women, all "dating" this one man - but even though I have some (read: lots of) issues with the show, I can see that if we don't throw our hat in the ring somehow, somewhere, we may get left out of the game - no rose for us, and we're left wondering "How come he didn't notice me?"<br /><br />I don't have a great answer, except that the book is telling me to just try to meet 5 new men a week. We don't have to walk away having each other's numbers or anything, but just try to engage in brief conversation with 5 new men a week and see what happens. So I'm trying. Don't get me wrong, I'd probably still avoid the guy surrounded by 6 other girls, and I think that is OK - because if that is the guy for me (or you) then the Lord can make it happen.<br /><br />Love you! love your posts!Tiffani Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074093500122376002noreply@blogger.com