tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post4884974966046152405..comments2023-05-16T02:54:58.920-07:00Comments on Losing That Which I Cannot Keep: Jane Eyre and other Romantic notionsErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02785435035760924844noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-21383416728606270822011-04-20T07:22:50.920-07:002011-04-20T07:22:50.920-07:00xoxo, Erin! Wish we were here and could lament and...xoxo, Erin! Wish we were here and could lament and rejoice together over some good coffee!Tiffani Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074093500122376002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-14831216603205554382011-04-19T14:48:10.758-07:002011-04-19T14:48:10.758-07:00Thanks, Tiff. On a hard day in so many other aspe...Thanks, Tiff. On a hard day in so many other aspects of life, this was a balm to my soul. :) I like what you have to say in every way. Thank you for commenting.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02785435035760924844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14868275.post-37047561168157803002011-04-19T13:25:02.687-07:002011-04-19T13:25:02.687-07:00I have so many reactions:
1) You just continue to ...I have so many reactions:<br />1) You just continue to blog your heart Erin. As an unmarried 36yr old, I understand how often your thoughts turn to singleness. We have walked this road together. If that is what you want to share, then share it, and if the words of others are acting as conviction to share about that aspect less, then heed the conviction. :)<br /><br />2) I think the Longing in our hearts to be pursued in the way we see in Jane Eyre and other movies (and in some ways in Pride and Prejudice) is part and parcel of what it means to be a woman. Its why its hard for men - why it puts pressure on them - because they know that this is what women desire. And I think its why when we hear of that behavior, it is most often in men who have "found the woman they want to marry" - because at that point, maybe its worth risking that he can live up to the standard of our hearts?<br /><br />3) I think there is an appropriate middle ground. I read Dr. Townsend's "how to get a date worth keeping" and he had really good suggestions for helping a person to be "open" to men approaching - and some of that advice was if you see a guy, go talk to him - or at least start a conversation that is long enough that he would want to know more if he were interested. that advice has served me well in a number of situations and helped me to be more comfortable with being a little bit forward even in online dating.<br /><br />4) I would totally coauthor that book with you! Between us, I'm sure we have some helpful insight. :)<br /><br />5) Having recently met Curby, who I think may be the person the Lord has led me to, I can say this - being pursued is worth waiting for. It is way better than the other guys I let hang around me, sort of passively, hoping they would decide they liked me enough to make a move or that they would initiate. Not everyone who has success in dating or marriage has an experience where the man pursued the woman, but having had even a tiny taste of it so far, I say wait it out - wait for the man who will meet those needs (not the unrealistic ones, I agree - we all know our future husbands aren't really going to be like Darcy, but the realistic ones), wait for the man who will pursue. <br /><br />The desert time is hard. I'm glad you write about it.<br /><br />Love you! TTiffani Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08074093500122376002noreply@blogger.com